It is widely believed that technology and relationships do not go together in today’s society. More than three times as many couples who spend time together at least once a week reported stronger levels of communication and sexual satisfaction. According to recent studies, technologies such as sex toys, interact in a misleading manner when it comes to relationships, causing visible damages.
According to a 2014 study, 89 percent of people believe technological devices are ruining relationships, mainly because people are frequently on their phones in other people’s company (Crucial Applications). Nevertheless, I would argue that the technology matters less than how it is used. The following are five ways you can use technology to improve your relationship and sexual life.
Scheduling
Scheduling can greatly benefit your relationship, from routine activities like breakfast to more intimate moments. Studies from The Date Night Project at the University of Virginia have shown that dedicated time together can strengthen relationships. In fact, couples who make a point to spend time together at least once a week are three times more likely to report better communication and sexual satisfaction and twice as likely to feel more committed. Luckily, technology has made scheduling easier through online calendars and reminders. It’s a small way you can eliminate stress from planning, build anticipation, and reaffirm the importance of your relationship to both you and your partner.
Sexting
Technology offers the opportunity to spark a desire with “sexting,” the act of sending flirtatious or risqué messages through text, Snapchat, or other apps, and adding some spice to your digital communication. According to therapist and best-selling author Ester Perel, “Love thrives in closeness, but desire requires room to grow. This is because love is about possession, while desire is about longing.” Cultivating desire can also involve incorporating sensuality into regular communication. A seductive photo or compliment can create more sexual tension than a simple “How’s your day going?”
Fitness Trackers
What? Why should we try fitness trackers for better sex? Let me tell you. It can only lead to a better relationship and better sex when you promote fun sexuality and show your partner that they are a priority. Your relationship can be whipped into shape with fitness trackers, both in and out of bed. Research has shown that couples who exercise together are more likely to stick with fitness programs, and they are more satisfied and in love with their partner. Challenge your partner with a fitness tracker. You can also compare calorie burn or heart rates during orgasms to work up some sweat.
Virtual Sex Toys
Virtually integrated toys can enhance sexual excitement and pleasure in a relationship. Over time, desire may diminish, but innovative toys like the Lovense can reignite your passion. This set includes a piece for each partner, which can be controlled remotely through a special app. The app allows for customization of vibration, rotation, and pressure for each toy and even offers recordable video chat. For those seeking more discreet options, the Vibease is designed to be used in public. This wearable vibrator fits discreetly in panties and can be controlled from anywhere via an app. Sharing intimate moments with virtual toys not only brings couples closer together but also helps maintain their bond even when physically apart.
You don’t have to let technology kill your romance. You can use technology to make your relationship more meaningful and add variety. By introducing fun sexuality, and showing your partner that they are a priority, you will be able to improve your relationship and sex. Technology, if used correctly, can help you do that.
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